I'm in a funk.
I usually love to plan the kids birthday parties but this one I have put off far too long. I just sent out e-mail invites. I'm not talking e-vites. I'm talking a plain old e-mail inviting my child's friends to her 4th birthday party. Of course it was sent to their parents because I don't know any 4 year olds with e-mail. You get the idea.
We've know for months where she wanted to have the party. I knew who she wanted to invite. I think I'm just dreading my baby turning 4. Even when I post about her on the blogs or in comments I say she's 3. It's less than 2 weeks away and I just can't call her 4.
I have visions of her years from now in middle school. Picking out her own urban clothing, or whatever the current style is, talking incessantly on the phone with her girlfriends, liking boys, and basically having zero time for me. Or not liking me. Right now we pretty much do everything together. She thinks (most the time) that I'm the "best mommy in the whole world." How am I supposed to give that up?
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It's the hardest part of parenting, for me.
My kids are now 17, 14, 10, and 9. It gets harder with every milestone, every birthday.
My oldest son is going to prom this month, my oldest daughter will be in high school next year.
Where did the years go?
The short answer is, it's job. I really never minded the things you hear Mom's mind. I didn't get weepy when she got older, outgrew baby clothes went to school, got independent. After all, that's what you want her to do. You teach her so she can do those things, if she does successfully, give yourself a pat on the back, you've done your job well.
I liked all phases so looked forward to the next one rather than regretted one was passing. Remember is positive to go forward, standing still is going backward, and going backward is a negative in life.
Now on the birthday party thing. The way we made them special was not to permit them every year. One year was kid deal, the following one or two were family. That way certain years held certain special things. You really can't have a special party everyear by nature of the word "special". We had parties for the milestone birthdays, like 1, 6,then a slumber party at 12. After that we had special dinners out or in her choice.
Hang in there, come out of your funk and do something fun for yourself.
Sandy
Hi Shelly,
I don't have "human" children, just cats. I do understand the passage of time, though, and the older we get the faster time seems to pass. Beats the heck out of the alternative.
I am just popping in to let you know I have a blog award for you!! You can come over and pick it up here:
http://www.dirtymommyclub.com/2010/04/sunshine-award.html
Keep up the great work :O)
Cheers,
Stephanie
What do you mean middle school? they start all that stuff in pre-k nowadays!
You're dreading your little girl turning four!
My daughter turned four, I think it was about two or three weeks ago.
Now she'll be 37 in June.
Enjoy and don't dread four, five, thirteen, sixteen, twenty-one because next week she'll be 37.
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